Found the following on the web...
http://www.informit.com/articles/article.asp?p=24152&seqNum=4&rl=1 wrote:Disable CD-ROM drive eject buttons
Some newer CD-ROM drives, especially those from big-name manufacturers, ship with a jumper- or switch-operated feature to allow the user to completely disable the frontal eject button while leaving software eject intact. Even in the absence of such an option, you may be able to disable the button manually with a little tinkering, though doing so will likely void your warranty. Once the button has been disconnected or disabled, a CD can be inserted only after the user has logged into Linux and issued the eject command.
I also saw mention of a program called setcd that seems to be able to do what you want - if you're running Debian you can get a package from
here, I've seen mentions of an RPM but haven't located it.